Contact Privacy Terms The Second 50 Years We've Only Just Begun Contact Privacy Terms For Women: Keep Your Marriage Healthy After The 30 Year Mark Share 1 Share 0 Share 0 Even in the beginning, relationships are hard work.

You zig while he zags. You want a cute little antique house by the water, while he wants a McMansion in middle of nowhere. But somehow you were able to put these differences aside and stay together year after year and decade after decade. Now, thirty plus years into your marriage your kids are grown and out of the house (hopefully) and you and your husband are at what may be a major crossroads in your relationship.

The thirty year mark can be a turning point in one’s marriage for a variety of reasons, If you married in your early 20s you are now in your early 50s. Many people in this age group are working harder than ever in order to be able to retire before 70, while others who may have excelled career-wise at an early age are contemplating an early retirement or have already left the workforce.

Other women who have played the role of stay at home mom may now be considering entering the workforce and going back to school in order to acquire new skills. Don’t kid yourself, these types of career stresses and lifestyle changes can have a serious impact on your relationship. However, career issues are only one of many problems that can rear their ugly heads at this stage of your marriage.

Many people who said they would try to “stay together for the kids” have to face the fact that the kids are gone and that the time has come to seek a more fulfilling relationship. Many other women, who are still desperately in love with their husbands despair because they feel neglected and disconnected from the men they love.

As you can imagine these numerous factors can often lead husbands and wives to decide to go their separate ways. Surprisingly, these mid-life marital issues are rarely discussed and certainly not emphasized in too many of the popular marriage and relationship advice books out there, so it is easy to believe that you are alone in feeling uncertain about the future of your marriage.

This is not the case as these issues are very, very common. While we can’t provide you to the answers for all of your mid-life marital dilemmas in one blog post, here are a few pointers to help you keep your marriage on track after the 30 year mark. Tip #1 – Keep your husband lusting after you Lets be honest, a marriage without a spark of desire isn’t going to be as rewarding as you deserve it to be, so this matter of making him lust after you really is important.

And while this may seem silly to you if he hasn’t been lusting after you for a long time now, but the good news is that in most cases that desire you used to feel can still be revived if you go about this properly. So what is the trick? Well dressing in sexy outfits and offering him hot oil massages can’t hurt, but the way that you interact with him doing day-to-day stuff is actually even more important.

A lot of techniques for getting your man to desire you like he used to can be found in standard dating guides, and most of that material is actually pretty effective. If you are looking for a good place to start is James Bauer’s What Men Secretly Want program. You can watch a video review of the course below.

Tip #2 – Look at your relationship with “fresh eyes” Everybody who is ever been married knows that to make it work, you have to work hard at it. If you’ve been feeling jaded about the way that things have been going, take a little time off by going on a little mini-vacation (or a full fledged vacation if you can swing it) and then come back to your relationship with fresh eyes.