Contact Privacy Terms The Second 50 Years We've Only Just Begun Contact Privacy Terms Dating Tips For Men Over 50 Share 0 Share 0 Share 0 In the video above Dr.

Phil shares a couple of good pointers for those re-entering the dating world after divorce that apply to people of any age or gender. As a man in his 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond, you are likely to notice that there have been some major cultural change to the way that single court one another that have occurred over the past few decades.

These days many women are insisting on paying their own way, and many other cultural norms we once took for granted have faded into oblivion. This being the case, here are a few quick dating tips that may help you have a more successful dating experience this time around: Tip #1 – Don’t compromise your integrity to fit in.

If you’ve been out of the dating scene since the 60s or 70s, you may feel overwhelmed by how much things may seem to have changed. This being said, it is important to keep a strong hold on your integrity, rather than changing who you are in an attempt to attract a woman. Yes, many modern women will tell you that they like “sensitive” guys and men who are in touch with their feelings, but that doesn’t mean that you need to start crying at movies or writing love poems in order to win the heart of a new lady.

Instead, stay to true to who you are. Integrity is a characteristic women a wildly attracted to, and it is something that is woefully lacking in today’s modern society. Tip #2 – Educate yourself. As an older guy you may feel like you already know a lot about women, and the thought of educating yourself about this subject by reading books and such can seem like a huge waste of time.

However, the truth is that no matter how much you know, there is always more to learn on your path to complete mastery. So do yourself a favor and read a book or two my a certified “dating expert” who has been in the field meeting and dating attractive women while you’ve been focused on other matters.

Perhaps the new Obsession Formula from leading pick-up artist Adam Lyons will be just the thing to help you attract a new girlfriend or wife who is even better than your last one! Tip #3 – Date in your age range. A lot of older guys get it in their heads that they should date much younger women. I’m talking about guys in their 70s and 80s who want women in their 20s and 30s.

There are a lot of reasons why guys may think they want a girlfriend this age, including the fact that these much younger women are typically much fitter, and more energetic than their older counterparts. Unfortunately however many guys who want to date women this age overlook the many drawbacks to such a relationship.

One of the biggest issues is the fact that the majority of young women are simply unwilling to even consider the idea of dating a man who is older than their father or even their grandfather. Perhaps this could work in some third world country, but in the west, this just is not considered normal at all.

Yes, there are some women who date men 25 or 30 years their senior, but there is almost without exception a significant financial component to these relationships. Just think about it, how many men in their 70s living on a tight budget do you see with women under 50? Not many. Also, you should consider the effect that a potential partner would have on your relationship with your children and grandchildren.

Tip #4 - Take Care of Your Health and Appearance

This isn't about looking 30. It's about showing up as the best version of yourself at the age you actually are. The men who do best in the over-50 dating scene aren't necessarily the most handsome, they're the ones who clearly take care of themselves. A few practical habits go a long way:

  • Get a good haircut every four to six weeks, including the eyebrows and ears, ask your barber, they're used to it
  • Wear clothes that fit your current body, not the body you had at 35
  • Keep up with dental care and skin health, see our dental care guide for an honest overview
  • Walk 30 minutes a day, no gym needed, regular movement shows in your posture and energy
  • Watch your alcohol intake, the body handles drinks differently after 50, and a nightly habit shows on your face

Confidence comes partly from how you treat yourself. When you walk into a coffee shop knowing you've taken care of the basics, it's easier to focus on the conversation rather than worrying about how you look.

Tip #5 - Listen More Than You Talk

This is the single biggest improvement most men over 50 can make in their dating life. Most of us were taught to lead the conversation, fill silences, and demonstrate competence through what we know. After 50, the shift that works best is the opposite: ask thoughtful questions, listen to the answers, and remember what she tells you. The next time you're together, reference something she mentioned. That single move says, "You matter to me," more clearly than any compliment.

A useful mental model: the best first dates feel like the other person was genuinely interested in your life. If you can give that experience to her, you'll stand out from 90% of the men she's met online.

Tip #6 - Be Honest About Where You Are in Life

Many men entering the post-50 dating scene make a quiet mistake: they hide the parts of their life that feel awkward to mention. A messy divorce. Adult kids who still need help. Health issues. A retirement-budget reality. The instinct is to lead with the polished version, but mature women are better at sensing what's missing than men give them credit for. Within a few dates, the truth comes out anyway.

Better to mention these things naturally and early. You don't need to dump your whole story on the first date, but you also don't need to hide it. The right partner will appreciate the honesty, and the people who would be put off by your reality were never going to be the right partner anyway.

Tip #7 - Don't Treat Dating as a Job Search

The last common mistake is treating dating as a numbers game with a target end date. Sending the same opening message to twenty women, scheduling four "interviews" a week, and trying to lock in the deal by date three is exhausting for everyone involved. Slow down. Have one or two conversations going at a time. Spend an evening on a real date instead of three coffee meetings. The men who find lasting partners almost always describe the early phase as "easy and natural," not "efficient." Patience is your friend, not your enemy.

Related Resources

For more on choosing a platform that fits your goals, see our pieces on dating services for over 50 and dating websites for senior citizens. Our broader senior citizen dating overview covers the modern dating landscape, and the baby boomers dating online guide focuses specifically on the online experience. The full senior dating hub walks through profiles, first dates, and safety in more detail.